Things that i would before dating you
Know what labels are respectful to us and which ones aren’t. “Wow, I would have never known you were a man — you look just like a woman!” or something similar isn’t a compliment — it’s just rude.The dating scene for transgender women offers a unique set of challenges that cisgender — someone whose gender identity matches their biological sex — women don’t have to deal with.
There are vast amounts of tools for knowledge — don’t be afraid to use them.
The message that is being conveyed to trans women with this type of exchange is that we’re engaging in a form of trickery, a disguise to pass as something we’re not.
As Janet Mock, author of We Didn’t Transition Just to Date Straight Men. Trans women don’t transition to fool straight men into sleeping with us.
We’re tired of being objectified over what’s in our pants, and genital reconstruction surgery is often a deeply personal topic. If you treat the date like a dictionary, we’re probably already shuffling in our purse for our car keys and telling you we have to run to the bathroom.
Besides, should the topic of discussion on your first date really be a woman’s vag? Know what trans means and don’t expect trans women to be your professor on gender studies, because who wants heavy discussions on a date when you could be drinking wine?